When it comes to kinky sex, my partner and I often like to try something a little different, but what I want to try is asphyxiation. I'd like to gently hold my hand to her neck and squeeze just as she is about to climax... is this a normal thing to want to try and how do I do it so that it remains a safe practice? Takeherbreathaway.

Wow! What a question. You really do need to do some research on this because the last thing you want to do is cause injury or death to your partner, as I am sure you don't. First up let me share with you some information I found in regards to erotic asphyxiation. As you must be aware asphyxiation can lead to death, however I found that it is also used non-fatally in martial arts, combat sports, BDSM and during sex as erotic asphyxia.

Asphyxiophilia, breath contol play or scarfing is really a potential lethal practice of intentionally reducing the amount of oxygen to the brain during sexual stimulation. This practice is done in order to heighten the received pleasure from an orgasm or orgasms. Before you decide to go ahead with this practice, please read up on it because it is extremely dangerous and it is one that results in many accidental deaths each year.

Personally, I know I stop anyone who tries to do that to me when I am enjoying my sexual experience, in fact it turns me off more than anything. It's a scare factor that I never ever want to even contimplate trying. But if you do decide to do it, then please read up before you try. I am not sure that there is a truly safe way to practice this because it has too many risks involved. Sorry I can't help you further... Night Angel.

I can't believe I'm asking this. I'd love to watch my wife have sex with another man. We've never even discussed threesomes, not seriously. Do you have any tips for bringing the subject up? How do you just work up to dropping a bomb like that without destroying your relationship? Mr.Jones

Perhaps Mr.Jones, it's time to introduce your wife to the internet and have her watch a few movies with you. Of course the movies will include threesomes where there are two guys giving pleasure to the babe. I wouldn't go for a full on threesome with double penetration but a sensual threesome where two guys lick her pussy, and take turns fucking her, or where one guy is being sucked while the other takes her from behind. If she likes what she sees, then ask her if she'd ever like to experience something as fantastic as the threesome she is watching. Watching her response to this type of movie will allow you to test the waters and see how far she would like to go. Night Angel.

Two words: water sports. I found out that my boyfriend is into this, and I am sort of freaking out. I don't even know if it's safe, much less if I could do something like that! So help a girl out: what do I need to know about safety, and if you can, please explain part of the appeal. I love him, and I always said I'd try anything, but this... I want to, but I just don't understand it! LLSuffolk

LLSuffolk, personally the moment has to be right for me when it comes to watersports. And I am assuming that others would feel the same. Although you will see this type of action happening between two girls or guys and girls and sometimes it is performed for the cameras. I am more comfortable when it is done with a partner I trust and as I mentioned before the time needs to be right. I like the moment to be an erotic experience and it can be.

It can be kept safe by not getting too carried away and although some people like to drink the golden flow, I prefer not to. To make the fluid not as strong or have a strong aroma, the idea is to drink plenty of water. If you keep up the water the urine will not be as strong. I hope that makes sense. A lot of people don't understand water sports and sometimes the best thing I can suggest is, try it once and if you don't like it, try it again. My thoughts would be to do this in the shower or the bath where the mess can be kept to a minimum.

I’m a single girl who is very fascinated by all the kinky sex I see online. I crave to experience some of the exhilarating action I see. But I’m afraid to get mixed up with the wrong crowd by just going to some club. Is there a way of finding a safe place to live my fantasies? Dawn T.

Dawn, you have asked a very open question to which I can't answer until I have more information from you. You say you are fascinated by the kinky sex you see online. Are you facinated by BDSM, group sex etc.? There are many answers I could give to try and lead you in the right direction. So what I need you to do is come back and tell me why type of kinky sex you are interested in so I can give you some suggestions on where to go. I look forward to your response... Night Angel.

Any advice for a couple trying to get away with sex in public? The two of us are both incredibly turned on by this, but a jail sentence is the last thing we need! How can we get the thrill without getting the chill? Dana and Randy

Dana and Randy, playing it safe when you have sex outdoors is always a must because as you both agreed, a jail sentence is the last thing you need. Being very wary of people around you and being discrete is a must. Where you are located is not like some places in the UK where dogging (sex in public) is popular and in those places you will find lots of people come out to watch the sex taking place and the couples performing get a kick out of what they do.

All I can suggest is if you are going to have sex in public places, be aware of your surroundings, choose that spot perfectly and be mindful of prying eyes at all times. Personally, I've had sex in public and it certainly get the blood pumping quite quickly and it's a huge rush knowing that the possibility of getting caught can become a reality. If you do get to have sex in public, enjoy it but at the same time watch for the unwanted attention. Night Angel.

I recently spilled cake batter all over myself and when I called my husband in to help, he shocked me by being really turned on. The sex was messy but great, and now he's after me to get dirty again. He claims it's a big turn-on for him. Is this some kind of fetish? Sticky Sara.

Sticky Sara, wow that sounds like so much fun and I'm not surprised that it did turn him on. Lots of men and women love messy play and yes it is a fetish called Sploshing. It is also called the Wet and Messy (WAM) fetish. Some people like to play in the kitchen using batter, cream, chocolate sauce or other sauces, jello or jelly and lots of messy products. Some people do take it further and they like to play or splosh around in mud. Many like the sex that goes with it too because it is such a turn on when the sex is hot, wet and messy. If you both like it Sticky Sara, then I'd say enjoy it because it can be so much fun.

I'm really interested in bondage, and I'd love to try it with my partner. The catch is, I'm a woman and I want to tie HIM up. Most of what I read is men dominating women. What do I need to know to show a helpless man a good time? Miss Sin

Miss Sin, many women dominate men. Your partner can become your slave and you can certainly dominate him, tie him up and make him worship you. I have a slave and he loves coming to see me to be dominated. He likes to feel me spank him, he loves my paddles and the whips I have on hand to punish him. Before you begin though your partner needs to trust you and you need to work with him and have a safeword in place. Talk to him and ensure you both set the scene for what you both want to get out of your first bondage sessin with your partner. If you need to know more... come back often and ask away.

Night Angel, my name is Carrie... that's right I'm a girl and I know this site looks like a guy's world but some girls like me are interested in finding out different things to help our relationships and also when we are confused about what to do.

Just like a guy. I met this guy and he has been teaching me to enjoy mild domination and we tried something a little different. He called it nipple play. He played with my nipples while I straddled his hips. I felt I could climax just by him
playing with my nipples. Is this normal?

Hi Carrie, it's nice to see a girl eager to try different things. Actually it's nice to see that you decided to initiate the start to something different with your partner. You are right. There are many girls who think they are in control but they certainly can get confused about some things within a relationship. You mentioned you thought you could climax while this guy you met plays with your nipples. Carrie if the feelings are right and you think you can, then let yourself relax and let it happen.

I've had the chance to experience those pleasures with nipple play and you are lucky that your nipples react to those
sensations. So my advice to you is, if it feels good... let it happen and enjoy it. Straddling his hips helps because even
though his cock may not be inside you, you can rub your clit up and the length of it. This adds to those sensations and it may help you relax enough to experience an orgasm.

Night Angel, I love talking dirty to my partner and I was wondering what your thoughts were about phone sex. I'd like to try something a little different but I am not sure how to go about it. Could you tell me what you think please? Thanks dirtytalkingcam

Hi dirtytalkingcam, there are several ways that you could talk dirty to your partner. Phone sex is good. Being anonymous on the other end of the phone, you could call your partner at times when she least expects that call. Calling when you think she isn't too busy or when she is by herself would be better, but then I know you will make her blush if you call and someone is there with her. When you call her you can talk about what you would like to do to her and you may find she will respond by playing with herself while you talk. Don't expect her to answer questions, telling her what to do is so much better between two people who like something a little different.

If you want to try something a little different, send her an email (not to her work address). Write a story that describes
her fantasies or the fetishes she enjoys. You can be as hard or as sensual as you like without going overboard. Tell her what you would like to do to her through your words. You'd be surprised at how turned on a girl. I like your ideas, because personally I love those private phonecalls and teasing emails.

Night Angel, I don't know if you remember me, but some time ago I talk to you about a fetish. I love wearing womens
clothes and I was looking for places I could try on clothes with the help of another woman. Well I found someone to help me. I rang one of the local escort angencies and there was one lady who was willing to let me have an hour of her time once a week so that I can dress up and she offered to help me with makeup and trying on clothes that she has or I can bring my own. I was just curious what you thought and if you think I am doing the right thing. Thanks Night Angel. Sean

Sean, that is fantastic. Sometimes it can be very hard trying to find someone that you would feel comfortable with especially with this type of fetish. Not all escorts have the patience to help a guy with a fetish for clothes, but I'm assuming that this lady is mature, she is sensual and for some guys you will find that they go to her so they can experience a GFE (Girlfriend experience). Enjoy the moments with her while you can and yes I think you have done the right thing and if you feel it is right, then it is...